Chivalry is alive and well!!

It started with flowers and ended with a good night kiss.  I’m happy to announce, my blog-reading peeps, that I went on the BEST date ever on Saturday! Now lately, I’ve had a bad run of luck. I joined a dating site and went on three other dates. They have totally made me appreciate just how unbelievable my newest guy is.

The first guy was very cute and we talked…well HE talked A LOT. He seems like a really fun guy and even gave me a hug and peck on the lips at the end. The second guy met me for dinner and we talked for 3 ½ hours. The conversation ranged from family and past relationships to pets, to movies we liked, and we even dabbled a bit in String Theory and multiple universes.  We had so much in common! He gave me a lingering hug at the end and told me he’d love to see me again. With both of these guys the post-date conversation fizzled and I basically haven’t heard much from either of them. I get it – they’re just not that into me. I’ve seen the movie. I get it. Fine. Just wished they would have told me instead of stringing me along and then slowly going away.

Now the third guy was a completely different story.  We texted a bit and he seemed nice enough and then asked me out. His best friend and his best friend’s wife were coming into town that Saturday and he thought it would be fun to spend an evening out on the town with them. I agreed. We talked on the phone and I perused his Facebook account.  That’s when I started getting worried. Then came the “Missing you” and “We’re talking about you” texts. It kind of creeped me out, but I decided to give it a shot.  After all, I’m new to this dating thing.  If you want to read the highlights, you can check out my previous blog called “The Devil’s in the Details.” Needless to say, that was a night I’d like to forget.

I was about to give up hope on the dating site, but I decided to give it one more shot. I came across one guy who looked very sweet and in one of his pics had his newborn nephew lying on his chest taking a nap. It was the sweetest picture! I read through his profile and the more I read the more I liked. He seems like a very intelligent person, which is the thing I find most attractive in a man. I decided to send him a message and from the get go we instantly hit it off.  He was so funny, yet respectful. He never made a raunchy remark and had a playfulness about him that was refreshing. We exchanged numbers and soon our date was set.

We had originally decided to go to a movie and, like the other three guys I had gone out with, I told him I’d meet him there. Now I know what you’re thinking – a movie?…on a first date? You can’t talk during a movie! How will you get to know each other? Well I thought of that too. Now this wasn’t a regular theater.  This was one of the new theaters with the leather seats where they serve you dinner and then you retire to the bar after the movie ends.  It was very nice!!  The other thing is that we’re both movie buffs, so for us it would have been fun, but nonetheless you’re right. That’s when I changed my mind about driving.  I texted him and asked him if it would be okay for me to change my mind about him picking me up. I said that I got to thinking about it and I figured it would be nice to at least get to talk a little before we were sitting in the dark for approximately 2 hours. He immediately responded that he’d love to, so I gave him my address.  In the back of my mind I knew we’d hit it off, and honestly, I thought it would be nice to have a “proper” date;  one in which the guy picks you up at your place and then takes you home at the end of the evening. This was something that I had NEVER had…EVER!!  Not long after I sent him my address I got a text from him that he tried to buy the tickets online and the three shows were sold out. Fortunately we had a contingency plan in case we decided against the movie, so he texted me that it would be about 30 minutes for him to get to my place and he’d see me soon.  I was actually relieved because I was running late.  I know…imagine that…a woman running late! 😉

He arrived at my place and when I opened the door standing before me was an extremely attractive, well dressed man who smelled amazing! He introduced himself and, as he apologized for being late, he pulled a bouquet of flowers out from behind his back. My jaw hit the floor!!!!!!!!!! My ex-hubby NEVER got me flowers. He was a “birthday,” “anniversary,” “Valentine’s Day” kind of flower giver…IF then! They were beautiful!! I put them in some water and we headed down to his car…his SUV…his very nice, very clean, very new-looking SUV. All I could think was that I was finally going out with a grown up!…who was 4 years younger than me…and the youngest of all the guys I had gone out with from the site. He opened my door for me and we headed out to the restaurant.

All evening there was no lull in the conversation. We had so much to talk about. So much so that after ordering our drinks at the restaurant, the waitress came back at least 6 times to take our order and we realized we hadn’t even looked at the menu because we were looking at each other. We finally made a decision and thought it would be fun to each order something and then share it. While we waited for our food (which was amazing by the way!), we started talking about our dogs. My sweet dog is permanently living with the ex-hubby and I told him how much I missed seeing that cute little face every day. I talked about my sweet dog, my first dog, who passed away at home back in the fall of 2011. I told him about the dog I had before my current dog who was attacked and killed in front of me while on a walk. At that moment, I realized that I was about to start crying, so I told him we needed to change the subject. I looked up at him and realized he was gazing at me with such tender eyes. I felt as if he was looking into my soul. I blushed and looked down for a minute to compose myself and then proceeded to change the subject.

We finished eating and he offered his hand, which I took, to help me down the step from where I was sitting.  We eventually left the restaurant to head to hear my friend’s band play at an upscale restaurant. Again, he opened my door for me and we enjoyed the conversation all the way there.

As he had done at the other restaurant, he gently led me into the room with his hand at the small of my back. We got a glass of water at the bar and shared it as we listed to the music. He was very impressed with my friend who was one of the two lead singers of the band. I knew my date didn’t dance or sing (except in the shower), but he told me he liked to slow dance and waltz…which is my weakness. I LOVE a waltz!! We walked across to the other side so we weren’t standing directly in front of a speaker and continued to talk as he had his arm around me. It felt so comfortable that I noticed myself step back into his embrace.

Finally, a slow song came on and he immediately asked me to dance. I of course accepted. We started in the normal dancing frame, but soon thereafter he pulled his hand, and mine, to his chest. We held each other closely and I rested my head on his shoulder. I was in heaven!!

After the song ended we proceeded back to the bar where I got some water and he got a drink. He pulled out a chair for me so I could sit down and he leaned forward towards the bar facing me so we could talk. I could stare at him all day.

It was getting pretty late, so we decided to leave, but upon walking outside we discovered it was raining. He offered to bring the car around, but I told him I was fine walking to the car. He tried to shelter the rain from my head with his arm and said that he wished he’d had an umbrella or jacket to cover me with. He again opened my door and we headed towards my place.

Before we drove off, he handed me his iPod which was plugged in to his stereo system and told me to pick the songs as he wanted to see what music I’d choose. So, as he drove, I played DJ going from one song to the next. It was a very eclectic collection and we both had fun talking some more as we listened.

We arrived back at my place and he parked the car. I knew I wanted to kiss him, but I know this is the awkward part of the date. We made quick small talk and then he told me he wanted to walk me to my door and asked if that would be okay. I told him I’d like that. We arrived at my door and I unlocked it and turned back around to face him. We hugged each other and I thanked him for everything. He placed a hand on each of my cheeks and asked if it would be okay to kiss me. I said, “Absolutely.”

Oy vey!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It was a soft, slow, passionate kiss with the occasional hesitation on his part that just makes your knees go weak. After a minute or so he pulled away, kissed me on the forehead, and wrapped his arms around me for one last embrace before he left. I asked him to please text me that he got home safely and we said good night.

That was BY FAR the most ROMANTIC night of my entire life!

He texted me when he got to his car that he was sorry for keeping me out so late, but that kiss made it all worth it! I agreed and couldn’t wait to see him again. Since then we’ve talked on the phone and texted. He texted me on Sunday and asked if he could steal me away for lunch this week. I was so excited! Tomorrow at noon he’s going to pick me up and take me out to eat. I have already been counting down the minutes until I get to see him again…as has he! I don’t want to rush into anything with him, but I know this has the potential to be something really great.  It’s been over 6 months now that my divorce was final and much longer than that since I’d felt any real connection with my significant other. It is so nice to have those feelings again but at the same time it’s a little scary.  I say it’s scary because I know what can happen when you move too fast. I need to remember that it’s a marathon, not a sprint.  I guess I’m happy to know not only that chivalry isn’t dead, but it’s alive and well in my very own knight in shining SUV!

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