A lot has happened over the last two months in regards to my personal life. The man I previously referred to as “Gameboy” has come to be a much bigger part of my life than I’d originally expected. We’ve now been seeing each other for about two months. For the most part, things are going very smoothly and we get along amazingly well. Our communication is incredible and we have a ton in common. Just last Friday, he met two of my closest friends when we all met for dinner. He had us all laughing and my friends both gave him their stamp of approval. He was even super sweet and paid for all our dinners. He enjoys holding hands in public and always seems to be genuinely happy to see me. My list could go on and on about what I like about him, but tonight I’m struggling with something that I know will get better since we talked about it tonight. Right now I just need to get it out of my head, have a good cry, and rest well knowing I have an amazing man in my life who I can talk to about anything.
First of all, I don’t really like the name Gameboy as he’s much more than that. Instead, I’ll be referring to him for now on as Hot Stuff, as that’s the name he gave himself via text when he then referred to me as ZoombaCutie. He meant Zumba since I still teach occasionally, but it was close enough.
Hot Stuff definitely enjoys his time to himself. That’s a good thing in my opinion, as I feel we all need that. He has lots of friends who he also enjoys spending time with and I’ve met some of them already. FYI…LOVE THEM!! Here are some things you have to understand about him. He is not much of a texter and never has been. He also isn’t the romantic type, so I’ve never received flowers or a cute note, but I’m used to being the romantic in a relationship. He isn’t very good at receiving compliments, but he and I are working on that part and it’s already getting better. I’m very proud of him for that. On the flip side, he isn’t good about giving compliments either. I’ll touch on a few of these, but it is the non-texting and lack of compliments that had been bothering me, so tonight we talked about it over dinner.
I joked with him about a month ago that I rarely hear from him during the day and most of the time it’s me texting him first. To explain why I have issue with this is that it makes me wonder if he even thinks about me when we’re not together. Tonight he assured me that he does think about me quite often and even talks to his friends about me. Just knowing that makes a world of difference, but it took me actually asking him about it for him to realize that he had no idea I’d even been wondering. To him, he feels that we text quite a bit during the day. I had to explain to him that we don’t actually. I might hear one or two things from him during the day…meaning I text him, he texts me, I text him, he texts me and that’s it. All day. That’s all. That is a total combined of four texts. I texted more with my mechanic about my car than he and I do and we’re dating. Again, most of our texting conversations only happen because I initiate them, so this is something that I just felt I needed to bring to his attention as I just wonder how he feels about me. I said that to him one night and his response, which was very sweet, was, “Well you have to know I like you a lot.” I told him that I did now and that sometimes I just need to hear it out loud. I don’t read minds and don’t expect him to read mine…nor would I want him to. He’d get lost in my mess of a brain anyway.
As far as the lack of compliments, that is what was bothering me the most. Now before you think I’m just needing my ego stroked, I can assure you it has nothing to do with that. I’m a fairly confident woman and do my best to look nice whenever Hot Stuff and I are together. What bothers me is how he will say how beautiful other women are (mostly celebrities) yet has never even called me pretty. Even tonight, while we were at dinner, I caught him several times checking out a young woman outside the window near our table who was wearing a short dress. When I mentioned to him after I glanced at her that he seemed distracted he said that he kept seeing something out of the corner of his eye and she was putting on a show for him…I guess she was bending over or something while she was outside talking on her phone. He then blew it off that he felt she was closer to being a teenager than a woman, but he was looking nonetheless. I know he’s a man and I know they look, but it was at least four or five times he looked at her and it was bothering me. He then saw how much it bothered me and asked me, “That really bothers you, doesn’t it?” I told him it did. I told him it might not bother me so much if he complimented me once in a while. I hate that it makes me look insecure and I know he’d never do anything and really doesn’t mean anything by it, but we’re barely two month into our relationship and it would be nice to hear him call me pretty or beautiful or (as he’s referred to other women) gorgeous. I don’t make comments about other men in front of him, not that it would probably bother him, but to me it’s just a matter of being respectful. I’ve called him handsome and sexy yet never get those compliments back. I really think it just took me saying something to him for him to understand what I was thinking. He very sweetly talked with me about it all and we finished our dinner and left to go see a movie. As we were walking up to the movie theater, he said to me that he thinks I’m incredible. That was very nice hear and I think as he said it he realized he doesn’t compliment me very often.
We held hands and enjoyed the movie together and then he drove me home. When he dropped me off he was trying to figure out when we’d be able to get together this week as I’m going out of town on Friday morning. I finally opened the door to leave and as I stood there he said, “Text me a lot tomorrow,” with a big grin on his face. He gets it…I can tell. Of course my response to him was, “Or you could text me.”
This relationship has incredible potential, and we’re already making plans for a trip together later this year that would include a stay at a bed and breakfast. I like him a lot and am very excited with how things are developing. I just know what I want and what I deserve, but I also know that mind reading isn’t a skill people have when they’re only two months into a relationship. Thank goodness our verbal communication is stellar…well that and he’s a very patient and understanding man.